Posted by nux at 11:17AM, 5/Aug/08.
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Hi Guys n Gals :)
Just thought i'd create a blog to help members get the most out of
this great site ;-)
I think one of the best ways of getting to know people's personality is actually chatting to them, you find out if they are outgoing, reserved, funny, boring, nice, not so nice etc etc etc.

By the way, its not all sex talk, there's a seperate room for that.. the main lobby where most people chat is just for general chit chat, get to know eachother and share a few stories/laughs !

To get to the chatrooms, simply click the "Chatrooms" link at the top of the page.

When you first arrive in the chatroom, sometimes it can be a bit daunting if there's lots of people in there chatting away.... please dont freak out and leave !! Just sit back and observe whats going on... you dont have to join in the convo until you feel comfortable. All the regulars in there are very friendly, we'll say Hi and try our best to help you feel comfortable - but remember, you can sit back and observe for a while if you wish.

Not sure what all the abreviations mean? CLICK HERE for a list of the more widely used acronms in chat.

SELECT AN AVATAR:

Down the bottom left of the chatroom is where you type, just above the text field you'll see a series of tools including smileys, avatars, and font colour for your username. Simply click the little people icon to select an avatar, like so:

WEBCAMS (yours):

Upon entry, you'll see a popup that looks like this:

If you have a webcam and wish to broadcast it, simply click 'allow". You can close it later, or even stop certain members viewing you if you wish - i'll show you how.

Look at the bottom right of screen, you'll see this:

click on "my webcam" and you'll see your image, beside your image you have controls, as shown here:

You can enable or disable by clicking the icons beside your image - you can see in the above image that i have my Mic disabled. if you didn't launch your cam when you entered, but wish to later, you can do so by clicking "my webcam" in the bottom right corner of the chatroom, then enable it.

If you click on "who's watching" you'll see the list of people who are watching you. If you don't want a particular member viewing you, you can click on their name and kick them off your cam. Another option you have is to click on the "settings" icon up the top right of the chatroom, the blue icon that looks like a cog, or flower. In there, on the "general" tab, you can untick "allow access to my cam". By doing this, when someone clicks on your cam, you will get a popup asking you if you grant them permission to view your cam - you can grant access, or deny. Users will also have a little eye icon beside their name on the chatters list (on the right) if they're viewing your cam.

Troubleshooting: If your cam won't load, try clicking the blue cog icon (settings) in the top right corner, then click A/V settings, and make sure your cam is selected in there...like so:

Webcams (view others): To view someones webcam, users with a little webcam icon beside their name on the userlist have webcam broadcasting: it's polite to ask first if its ok to view, and if the user says its ok, then click the users cam icon and you can view their cam - like this:

VIEW PROFILE: It's a good idea to learn a little about a person before you start chatting to them. IE: to find out if they are male or female, maybe what they are looking for etc etc. To do this, just left click the users name in the chatters list on the right, and click view profile. You'll get a little popup as shown below... you can scroll tothe bottom of that popup and click a link to view their full profile - more photo's etc.

This little clock Icon means the user is away from the computer:

Whispers and Personal messages: Whispers are private messages between 2 people, only the sender and reciever can see them. A "personal" message is a message sent by one person who is directing that message at just the person targeted (from user A to user B), but tthey are not private - everyone can see them. A whisper message will have a little chat bubble icon on it, whereas personal(public) messages have a little red arrow icon on it. So if you recieve a message with a chat bubble icon - remember - only you can see it. To send a whisper or a personal message, simply click on the user you wish to send the message to, and select either whisper or personal message. Like so:

Rooms: You'll find different rooms (and perhaps other users in them) by simply clicking on "Rooms" at the top of the screen, like this:

You can be in more than one room at a time, and toggle between them. When in 2 rooms, use the tabs at top of screen to switch from room to room. See image:

Note: If you have your webcam broadcasting in the lobby, and then decide to move to the adult room, remember, people in the lobby can still see your cam - so if you're broadcasting adult content in the adult room, remember to close the lobby tab after entering adult ! Just click the little X on the lobby tab.

To add buddies: You can add people as just chat buddies by simply clicking their name and add to buddies, or you can add you your profile buddies - Search profiles, click on users profile, while viewing user profiles, you can "send wink" or "send message" . When sending those, you have an option to invite them to your buddy list, and invite them to view your private photo's, if you have any.

The site is still relatively new, so numbers are still not as large as other sites - yet. But it's growing all the time, and if we encourage eachother to use the chatroom, it will become more active, more often :) So go ahead, search profiles and send people messages asking them to pop in for a chat :)

Problems? I'f you're having problems, first install the lastest flash player HERE (it's free). If you are still having problems, let FlingFinder know about it HERE and they might be able to help you.

ABUSE: FlingFinder does not tolerate abuse, if someone is being abusive in chat, they will be warned once - second warning will result in a ban. That includes degrading personal attacks, its uncalled for, and downright mean.
People are encouraged to block anyone you'd rather not communicate with, for whatever reason.
If need be, click user and select "report user" - copy and paste offending text and send it to admin.
To block a user in chat, click on the users name on the RIGHT hand side of the room, and select block from the menu - see this image:

NOTE: blocking a member in chat does NOT block them from sending messages to your inbox, to block them from doing that you need to go to their profile and block them from there also.

FlingFinder is endeavouring to become the most fun, affordable, and popular dating site available to Australians, and with your help, we'll get the numbers growing.
This will mean a much greater variety of people to interact and have fun with. Everyone wins, and remember, there's NO FAKE PROFILES here.
Every application is personally approved by FF staff. There's no advertising profiles, and should you encounter one, please report it and it will be removed immediately.

REMEMBER: This is a dating site, where you are likely to find a vast array of personalities. If you receive a message from members that you deem inappropriate, remember, others may find it a turn on.

Please, rather than be discouraged, simply ignore that user, or if they are persistent - block them! FF want's this to be a fun experience for everyone :)

So what are you waiting for? CLICK HERE to go to the chatroom and familiarise yourself withthe software - just click on stuff, you'll work it out :)

It's only BORING if you allow it to be, so don't be shy, if there's not much of a convo going, try to start one, or simply join in to the existing convo.

CLICK THIS LINK about online dating safety and add it to your faves, trust me, its worth the read.

Hope to see you in the chatrooms !
Cheers,
nUx.

PS: at the moment, the chatrooms are most busy in the evenings(usually after 9-10pm), don't be discouraged if no one is there though, if everyone logs in, see's no-one around then logs out again - then there will never be anyone in there, right? ;-)