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Improve Your Odds in the Online Dating Game
 Posted by oodlum (Admin) at 5:44PM, 15/Sep/09.
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I got a message today from a member wondering why his profile wasn't getting much action. He asked me to take a look and I could see a few problems right away.
Here are a few tips to improve your chances on FlingFinder. Members are welcome to comment below and add their own.
Send More Messages
Our friend had sent only one message, and about 25 flirts. Dating is a numbers game. Your FF membership entitles you to unlimited messages, so take advantage of it.
Send Personalised Messages
Flirts don't show much effort. A lot of people couldn't be bothered replying to them. The same goes for generic "hey, hit me up" messages. Spend a few minutes looking at the persons profile and tell them something you like about them. Why you are interested in that person?
Widen your Search - Improve Your Chances
If you only message the members who could be lingerie models, fair enough - but you can bet you've got some stiff competition.
Broaden your Horizons
Don't limit yourself to just your city. Airfares are cheap these days for fun weekends away!
Don't Forget the Members Without Photos
Try sending messages to every single person without a photo. There will be a LOT less competition, and you can arrange to swap photos privately.
That being said…
ADD PHOTOS TO YOUR PROFILE
Or you will reduce your chances dramatically. If privacy is a concern, put them in your private album and grant access to only those you message.
Even better, put some photos in your public Album.
Spend Some Time on Your Profile Descriptions
I see a few profiles with descriptions like "This is stupid. No-one reads these things. If you want to know something just ask". Wrong.
And of course...
Spend Some Time in the Chat Room
The common thread here I guess is - you get out what you put in.
Any more tips?
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curious_couple1
We have done every single thing on this blog. Sometimes people just aren't interested, I guess. :(
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Hella_Wild_666
I think it's fair to say that finding a "third" wheel, no matter how much you try or where you look, is going to be a challenge. Have you couples who are looking for a female tried searching the couples section? You're all pretty much looking for the same thing, perhaps you should try giving that a whirl?
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curious_couple1
yeah we have contacted couples, girls, talked to guys on here for advice. we feel that we've done everything we possibly can... maybe it's just us...
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Hella_Wild_666
One of my pet peeves in relation to men's profiles:
Wang Shots
You know the ones, the full, up close and in your face pics of your "members". Sure, there's some chicks who are right into that. And yes, this IS an adult site...but does browsing through profiles have to resemble browsing through a porn catalogue? Come on guys, be realistic...us girls aint going to respond to you based solely on your wang looks like!
But having said that, I respond to both flirts and emails, irrespective of what your profile pics look like or what's contained in it. Even if it's simply to say thanks for the email but no thanks; the person did make the effort to contact you afterall. Just common courtesy. <-- That's a tip for the ladies.
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oodlum (Admin)
R-rated pics always have a nudity warning though. Maybe we need a specific W rating, for Wang.
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Hella_Wild_666
Yessir, Rated:Wang.
hehe
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seren
I insist on a WANG warning not just for mens profiles but just in general
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curious_couple1 said:
yeah we have contacted couples, girls, talked to guys on here for advice. we feel that we've done everything we possibly can... maybe it's just us...
Hella_Wild_666
Maybe it might be something simple like your approach? You know, get to know people, establish whether there's a connection there, etc etc. I'm sorry you're not having much luck, just give it time, relax with your main priority of being here and focus on establishing suitable participants.
And my last 2 cents for this evening: I'm of the opinion that this online hook-up thing shouldn't be regarded as a meat market. Afterall, we're all humans behind the facade of a computer monitor, not juicy, prime rib eye steaks just dying to be taken home and barbequed. Mmmmmmmkay? :)
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krysp
Couldn't agree more! There are not a lot of who take the time to get to know someone (yes, there are some wonderful people who actually care and put time and effort in too), and most automatically assume, that because you're on this site they can treat you like a piece of meat!
I like to be shown a little bit of respect, and feel it's important for someone to want to get to know me (not just physically).......... So, don't just send a flirt or an email asking to see my private pics, show some respect and talk to me first and then ask........
Oh, I generally don't respond to flirts... If you don't have a spare few seconds to write a few words, I don't have a spare second to reply to a flirt........
Where can I find a nice, kind, caring, respectful man, who doesn't assume that all I care about is his penis, and who doesn't only care about my pics.........
Ohk, yeah, way off topic, got a little worked up........ Sorry!
I am nice, feel free to email me, without a doubt I will respond...
And CC, you live in the wrong city :p
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Bigbadpete
Hi, this is my first reply post, my name is peter, my handle is bigbadpete, i am from bunbury, western australia, i completely agree with what you are saying. Have a look at my profile.
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emily42
hi oodlum. i am having a lot of fun being a part of this site. I messaged u the other day about a way too delete a history i have with another person as i dont want it accidentally found by someone else. I can delete incoing messages and outgoing messages but the history remaiins. It does not look like that can be done so have u any suggestions? emily 42
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oodlum (Admin)
No that can't be done at the moment. The site is designed to be logged in by the member only. It is not open to the public. Be sure your password can't be easily guessed, and remember to log out after each visit.
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nux
Excellent tips Mr Ooodlum. I agree, a bit of effort is required, send messages, and i feel the best way to get to know people is via the chat rooms - so invite people in to the chatrooms for a more "instant" conversation. I'm always sending new members a message that i have saved as a template. It's a pretty simple message that just welcomes them, and directs them to my blog about how to use the chatrooms, and blogs - and that i hope to see them in there some time :)
Saving the message as a template is easy, and saves a lot of typing in the future. You ust hit contact member, then insert the template - then the message is loaded automatically for you to send. You can even edit the message or even add to it before you hit the "send" button.
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mercedes76
I'm in agreement about the flirt thing .......sometimes I will write back but mostly just to say how much I dislike 'flirts' they mean nothing to me.....
hey curious couple :) I think finding the perfect 'third' wheel is a tricky one and you really just have to put yourself out there and hope .... have you thought about going to a swingers club ..apparently there are some good/classy ones around that attract 'normal' people and there are rules and such so are not all clubs out there are feral hives of inequity. Probably more likely to meet like a larger amount of like minded folks in your area????
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curious_couple1
We had just assumed that swingers clubs weren't the best way to go for beginners. Honestly, we are rather intimidated by the idea!
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Pagan
Have to agree with the flirt thing, not all that interested. Much nicer receiving a message that has had some thought put into it.
As to the third wheel cc, your both young, fit and good looking,I have to wonder why you are in a site looking,(not that there is anything wrong with this site ood) Get out and live a little, a gay/bi bar maybe?
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Pagan
Oh and another thing, when replying to messages, it's a good idea to leave the message open for a reply, just saying thankyou kind of leaves the conversation dead and the recipient not knowing whether you want a reply or not
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curious_couple1
We do. We ask each person to PM us or email us, and provide our email address. Regarding your previous comment, are you suggesting that FF is only for old, unfit and ugly people?
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curious_couple1 said:
We do. We ask each person to PM us or email us, and provide our email address. Regarding your previous comment, are you suggesting that FF is only for old, unfit and ugly people?
Hella_Wild_666
I don't think Pagan was suggesting that. I'm pretty sure she meant you guys are cute and young and should explore.
Personally, I'm curious to know why a young couple such as yourselves would be "experimenting" this early in your lives? Geez, most teens I know are still worrying about the latest fashion/mobile phone/gadget trends or hooning around fresh on their P's!
I'm sorry if my opinion offends you, but can you see my point here?
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curious_couple1
Yeah your opinion is one shared by most older people. But why not start early? We both love sex, and why stick to the traditional stuff, right? You might be suprised how experimental the Y-Gen is. In relation to exploring, we viewed this site as an avenue through which to do just that!
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Pagan
I was in no way suggesting FF is full of fat ugly and old people, gees, all the women here are gorgeous...But Hellz hit the nail on the head with what I was trying to say. And maybe you shouldn't take everything so critically.
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darryl2009
Iam atrial member an would like full members that i send a flirt to ,to send me message introducing themselves an possibly to meet an what they are exactly looking for also how do you no how geniune the people are
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nux
Daryl, People SHOULD be putting what they are looking for on their profile - read them.
As for how do you know how genuine people are? well, the more you chat to them, the better you get to know them - makes sense, right?
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Hella_Wild_666
You're a trial member and you want full members to do all the work? Pffft, you're gonna have them lining up, bashing down your door Darryl......for all the wrong reasons! hahahaha
Hmm, Happy Meal springs to mind, I wonder why aye Nuxxie? hehe
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nux
Krysp says: "Oh, I generally don't respond to flirts... If you don't have a spare few seconds to write a few words, I don't have a spare second to reply to a flirt........"
Thats it in a nutshell right there. A little effort is required to get most peoples attention, both female AND male.
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hunny baby
Plz put ur photo up if u really want to be here. Even if its fuzzy as mine, a lil effort can go a long way. Nobodys perfect and i kno ppl wanna remain anon but sorry, dont expect me to respond (im not lookin for married men anyhow). I was shy at first but then i thought how unfair I felt veiwing others, when they couldnt see even a glimpse of what i look like. Take a pic of ur shoulder, something!Im cool w flirts but i dont like firtin w a toilet piccy lol :)
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curious_couple1 said:
Yeah your opinion is one shared by most older people. But why not start early? We both love sex, and why stick to the traditional stuff, right? You might be suprised how experimental the Y-Gen is. In relation to exploring, we viewed this site as an avenue through which to do just that!
Hella_Wild_666
Tut tut! Go easy on the over-use of the words "older people"!
Us "grown ups" have life experience that the young'ons don't yet have, and on top of that, you Y-Gens are sadly lacking something in your genetic make-up: Patience.
It's cool that you want to get a head start on experiencing as many variations of sex as possible...but I wonder how you would deal with all the negatives (or complications that may arise) assosciated with such experiences? Life aint all fun and games, remember that.
And don't even think about back-chatting me, I'm older than you young man and young lady, I know what I'm talking about!
LOL...just clowning. But yeah, young man and young lady!
Why, I oughta ground the pair of you! :P
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kylie d
hey hella u are so right about the issues that can arise when u decide to start experimenting alot of couples think its all fun and games but unless you have a very strong relationship and both parties are aware of the rules and a strong relationship dosnt happen over night it takes many many years of work.one thing alot of yung peopledon think about is how they will react seeing their partner with someone else! and how can you say you will be fine with it if you have only ever been with each other.
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motorX
Why is it so hard to find a 7 foot blue woman who's name i cant prenounce? im not asking for much i just want her to have 3 fingers, brightly coloured yellow eye's, long hair that can plug into something and a bit of attitude. do you think im limiting my options? may be i should be so pedantic on what shade of blue perhaps...
All in all Fling Finder rocks i wish i made it. congrats Oo... on a job well done.
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curious_couple1 said:
yeah we have contacted couples, girls, talked to guys on here for advice. we feel that we've done everything we possibly can... maybe it's just us...
Zadok156
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Posted 6:17PM, 15/Sep/09