Favourite poem

I can totally understand the lonlyness in that piece. I went back to an abusive lover many times because the passion, no matter how violent , was better than the nothing and the lonlyness. Practical Magic is a personal fave of mine too.
Just remember thou that you are 19yrs old and you have plenty of heartbreak ahead, but never loose hope, I found my happiness at 26yrs old

interesting topic... and such a loaded one... very open to interpretation, it comes down to ones perception of the age old question: "what is love?"
For most people its the butterflies and warm fuzzy feelings. For me, i call that lust.
Personally i think love is being comfortable with someone. When you love someone, you dont need to be all over each other all the time, i like the feeling of just being comfortable hanging out with each other. You know, kicking back, watching a movie.... even just going to the supermarket together. Just knowing they are there, and that you are together....knowing you love each other, without the need to maul each other to prove it. Sure, you need intimacy, but its not neccessary to be intimate all the time, there's more to life, and much more to enjoy together. I can sit watching TV in complete silence, hardly even talk to the missus, but i know she's there....and thats what matters, its that feeling of security, just knowing she's there for me, and i'm here for her. To me, that's love.
It's also important to feel pleased if my partner is having a good time - if she goes out with friends and leaves me at home, i don't get jealous, coz i know she's having a good time. Jealousy kills relationships, end of story. I've learned that smothering each other kills relationships too - as does posessivness, Hope will vouch for that;-)
My partner recently suggested bringing someone else into the bedroom with us, just for fun. Most people frown upon this, and say there's no way they could handle their partner being intimate with another person - but again, its knowing that my partner is having fun, thats what matters - at the end of the day she still loves me, and i still love her, and we'll still be together, if we can just remember that this activity is just sharing some fun together. I'm confident that my partner would not leave me for someone else, and she can feel confident that i am not going to leave her over something like this, after all, why should we leave each other just because we shared some fun? doesn't really make sense, right?
So for me, LOVE is security, all the other needy stuff is lust.
I'm sure some will disagree, but yeah, just wanted to express my opinion on the subject, maybe some people will open their eyes a little wider to some of the ideas above.

my usual go with when i am bored. or they really start to annoy me, i tend to date guys who act like nagging possessive 13 year old girls. (a bit mean i know but once you have dated enough of them you get sick of it) but as most guys aren't usually like this maybe it is the way that i am that makes them act like this.

Practical Magic! Great Movie! ..."there's a little bit of witch in every woman."

Love has become such a commodity these days. I had a chat with one of my older patients recently about this topic and I must say, times have certainly changed. Back then, there was a huge difference between love and lust. Now, sadly, it's a thin line that seperates the two. Are we really in love or is it merely just lust? Is it love that gives us butterflies in the tummy when the object of our adoration walks in or is it lust that drives us to be in constant touch with our addiction? Food for thought..

However we interpret it, "being in love" should be as it was from day dot: Magical ;)

p.s My patient met and fell in love with her husband when they were both 17yrs old. They both celebrated their 95th birthdays last week, and yes, they still only have eyes for each other.
Awwww, precious! xox