Adult Personals Dating – How to Attract the One You Want

When you start exploring adult personals, one of the biggest challenges you face is finding the right way to present yourself so you attract the types you’re looking for - without attracting the ones you want nothing to do with! With that in mind, these tips will help you separate the lovers from the losers.

Make a Good First Impression

In the online world of adult personals, your profile is their first impression of you. Don’t waste it by describing what you’re looking for in a person. They’re not reading your profile to find out what you want; they’re reading it to discover who you are. Use your profile to paint an accurate picture of your personality.

Your Picture is Important

Humans are visual creatures, so the picture you post with your profile is vitally important and can actually determine the type of person who responds to it. If you’re looking for something casual and want nothing more than a one-night stand, a sexy pose in provocative attire is perfectly acceptable, especially in adult personals ads. Note that I didn’t say a vulgar pose. This will attract types with a completely different mindset. If that’s what you’re looking for, great, go for it. Just be aware ahead of time the sort of responses you’re likely to get.

Don’t Pretend to be Something You’re Not

Putting on an act is guaranteed to wind up in dismal failure. For one thing, it’s almost impossible to keep it up for an extended period of time, but more importantly, you want him to be interested in you as the person you are, not as some fantasy woman you’d like to be. Even with adult personals online, honesty counts.

Check Your Baggage at the Door

Leave your emotional baggage behind when you decide to begin looking again. If you just ‘can’t get over that he dumped me’, perhaps you’re not ready for someone new. You want to present a positive, upbeat attitude in your profile and your correspondence. Put your past in the past and leave it there.

Show Your Fun, Flirty and Adventurous Side

Hobbies and interests are important, after all, common interests draw people together in the first place. If you enjoy watching AFL or league, put it in your profile. Movies and books? List your favourites. If you’re physically active (and if you’re not, you should be), mention those activities you enjoy, particularly the ones that might be shared by men, such as roller blading or surfing, not just Pilates or aerobics. Include activities you’d like to try but haven’t yet, like sky diving or rock climbing.

Date Like a Pro

Open your mind to the possibilities of dating more than one person at a time. If you pin all your hopes on just one, if that doesn’t work out for you, disappointment is sure to follow. Keep your options open and enjoy the attention of several members, instead of focusing solely on finding your perfect match. Until they come along, there’s a lot of fun to be had!

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