Smoking... not gay porn...
I have a friend I met in my youth (even though I'm not that old ;D ). He made me feel more mature and seemed to help me fit in with my peers. When I was stressed, I could always turn to him for some "relief". Indeed, I have come to depend on him in many situations. But in time, I've discovered his dark side. He demands to be with me all of the time, even if this makes me unwelcome in some places. And while he made me feel more mature, he did so at the cost of my health. To top it off, he has stolen a good portion of my pay. In recent times, I have tried to break off the relationship, but he has not let me. In a way, he has become my master. But for some reason I don't regret having ever met him.
Seeing as it is an option when setting up our profiles, I figured I'd talk about smoking and how it can (if at all) determine who we choose to interact with in a more personal way. Obviously it's not an issue when chatting online, but IRL does smoking put some people off?
I myself have been smoking on and off for 8 years. Having started at home because my Mum made them (getting the ol' chop chop at the market). For me it was a free and easy habit to take up. Moving to Melbourne for work (and while as an apprentice) it was easy to give up, what with the low pay. It just wasn't sensible. For the last few years though, having a higher wage and working in an environment where smoking is the norm, it has become part of my life. Not a huge part, but with society shunning smokers these days and all the debate in parliment, it seems like maybe I should rethink my stance on this habit.
And even though I know it's not good for me, I find it helps with the stress of work. Plus I get to have 5 minute smoke breaks a few times a day (it adds up. Lazy much? :D )
Anyway... I've had my spiel. Now onto the main reason for this post, the discussions! If you're not a smoker would you be less likely to make contact with a user who is? How much does someone being a smoker matter to you? And if you're a non-smoker and I make contact... should I make sure to bring the Tic Tacs if we meet IRL?
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(Private Profile) - 28 May, 10
-I have to say while I have dated non smokers, being a smoker myself, I do feel much more comfortable being with a smoker as I feel like I wont be judged, frowned upon or made to feel guilty for liting up. I do want to quit and I am trying, but in a way I don't want my smokey bear(bf)to quit just so I can sneak a drag off him, if I'm stressed. I love him just the way he is and would never expect him to quit or change anything for me.
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(Private Profile) - 28 May, 10
-Sorry Bawlesoffury but smoking is unattractive to me also. If I had to choose between a smoker and a non-smoker, the non-smoker would win everytime.
Having said that I too have been involved with smokers in the past but seeing as I have a lung condition the non-smoker is a far better choice for me.
I would not go as far to say I won't date someone if they smoked but I would much prefer they didn't. I would have to seriously consider whether I would date them if they did. Well that is my opinion anyway!!!
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(Private Profile) - 27 May, 10
-Hi. Yep, it does make a difference to me. If I'm going to search profiles on line (which I don't often do anyhow), I'll tick the non smoker box... and I'm much more likely to have my interest sparked by someone who contacts me if they are a non-smoker... But that being said if I'm chatting to someone and I connect with them I don't rush off to check their smoker status...and the last two people that I have fallen for have both been smokers :-) There are other things which are more important, and I won't write someone off, for either a fling or a relationship, because of it. But yep, smoking is definately unattractive to me :-)
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I am very respectfull of non smokers. My house is a non smoking house. I think when i give it up i will be one of those nazi non smokers.
I find it funny how if you are entertained or similar you forget about wanting a smoke. So a good movie in the cinema or even just good company in a non smoking enviroment.
Its one habit that i would like to see the end of.