Romantic or creepy?
A question that I've often pondered is, how can you tell the difference between doing something incredibly romantic and something incredibly creepy?
For instance, if a guy found out where a woman works and brings her flowers there, would that be an incredibly romantic thing that he's gone to all that effort to find her just to see her again, or would that be seen as the behaviour of an obsessive stalker?
My theory has often been that it depends on whether the woman actually likes the guy or not. If she likes him, she'd probably see it as romantic, if not he's suddenly a stalker even though he's performed the exact same action. Problem is though, you can't actually find out until AFTER the action has taken place.
So question is, can one tell the difference beforehand, or is that just the risk you take?
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(Private Profile) - 03 May, 12
-As much as a guy likes a girl, it doesn't mean it's going to be reciprocated, no matter the intensity of the feelings. It actually makes it worse if she doesn't like him like that, as this can be construed as obsessive behavior, which scares the crap out of anyone!
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(Private Profile) - 03 May, 12
-But here's where it gets a little more complicated. Having known that, it must take a pretty special woman for a guy to risk all that just for her, which suddenly makes it a worthwhile means of showing just how much she means to him.
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(Private Profile) - 03 May, 12
-I once dated a guy that would turn up with a pinic basket and flowers for me every few weeks when i was dating him and i found that to be more romantic than having them delivered as it meant that he took time out of his busy schedule to pick the flowers and to deliver them ....
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(Private Profile) - 03 May, 12
-I'm certainly flattered by any attention, but if you've told the guy several times that you only want to be friends and he persists with "romantic behavior" it most definitely becomes creepy.
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(Private Profile) - 03 May, 12
-I completely agree Wenchy. Including texts of the sexual nature when you've specified on numerous occasions that they aren't welcome.
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(Private Profile) - 03 May, 12
-Worse is unasked for nude pics :/ trust me, no one wants to see the penis/arse/nakedness of their friend. If we did, you wouldnt just be our friend. Lol
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(Private Profile) - 03 May, 12
-As many people have said already, it's romantic if you have volunteered your work info & are interested in the person. If you haven't & aren't, it's definately creepy. I would personally feel it was a major invasion of privacy. It would make me very uncomfortable.
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(Private Profile) - 02 May, 12
-Agree, maybe not so much with the words, but the meaning behind it.
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(Private Profile) - 02 May, 12
-Depends how well you know the guy. Super super sweet if he is your sweetheart. Super super creepy if he isn't.
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(Private Profile) - 02 May, 12
-ps...........I wouldnt use abuse spit out etc
Id just tell him to stay the flipflop away
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(Private Profile) - 02 May, 12
-Can I ask though Vesh, are you serious when you ask these things....surely not......you know the answer already....right
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(Private Profile) - 03 May, 12
-Sorry, I must've been away sick the day they taught these things at school. And UQ didn't offer Romance101.
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(Private Profile) - 02 May, 12
-If its a new man in my life who did that to me..............I'd run for the hills.
If I'd been with him a little while and he knew where I worked, well that would be different.... it would be nice. I have no problem with a man being kind and generally us girls can tell when a guy is a weirdo (well at least I can.)
I have had flowers hand delivered to my workplace by my husband on a special day and it was one of the loveliest things ever, much much nicer than them being delivered by the florists
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That's super cute! I want one of those types :)