Does a person being married put you off checking their profile?

15 Jul, 13 - 7 Comments.

This is something I was thinking about, since I'm married but I'm here on Flingfinder looking for a partner. Is someone's marital status likely to prevent you from initiating contact with them? What do you think about married people joining this site in the first place?

I remember being about 17 and just starting work. There was a guy I worked with who was married with two kids, yet he had one-night stands whenever he could get them. I thought he was just a sleaze. (Actually, he was!) But the situation seems a lot more complex to me now than it did 25 years ago. I'm married but here I am. Am I a sleaze?

Any thoughts?

  • Ian1971 - 16 Jul, 13
    Coopers Plains, QLD, AU

    Interesting points, thanks everyone. There's a variety of opinions here, all valid.

    Hippie's point is interesting - there's always tit for tat in a relationship. If I can do it why can't she? And if she is, and I don't know about it, is that okay? Frankly I don't think I'd be bothered if she was just having sex, but I know very well that other emotions tend to get in the way when you're fucking someone.

    I'm not too bothered about the judgment of other people. I'm able to deal with what they think. The judgment of my spouse would be another matter - it would be a horrible scene but at the end of the day...hey man, you haven't had sex with me more than twice a year since the Twin Towers collapsed; what did you think I was going to do?

    (Bear in mind I haven't met anyone personally on this or any other site - but had some chats with some cool ladies, which I've enjoyed.)

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  • (Private Profile) - 16 Jul, 13
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    Who is anyone to pass any form of judgement on who you are. What you do is none of my business and what anyone thinks of you is none of your business either. I personally wouldn't look for a married man. But some people will. Go for your life if that's what will make you happy.

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  • HappyHippie - 16 Jul, 13
    Scoresby, VIC, AU

    I tend to stick to the saying, treat others how you expect to be treated, is it something your wife knows about? what would your reaction be if I was to let you know that I have been sleeping with her for the last year or so? me and her enjoy each others company and will sometimes just get a drink, just a nice casual thing. Are we now sleazy?
    If this stirs the pot in anyway perhaps your seeking justification for something that deep down you feel is wrong, I wont judge you for it but should things go belly up it'll fall on your shoulders.
    my assumption for you asking people on here and not your wife leads me to believe she doesn't know, if you can't be open and honest with her after this long, when can you be?

    Something for you to ponder over

    More direct to the question, I would think yes most likely people will skip over it, and very much for the reasons Ramjet pointed out, adultery in many cultures is frowned upon and will have repercussion especially if done behind your spouses back.
    I hope you don't take this advice to then change your profile to make it look like your single to get more responses as people on here have a right to know what they are getting into should they go ahead with it anyway.

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  • (Private Profile) - 16 Jul, 13
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    Married provides some convenience but comes with judgement of others. I'm not hypocrit so no judgement from me.
    I accept my cheating status but I wouldn't say it's sleazy. There are different ways to be sleazy in my opinion for example those who don't identify their marital status falls into that category for me.

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  • (Private Profile) - 15 Jul, 13
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    If you are married its ok but you will be judged at face value, but then are those the people you want to meet anyway? As long as you are open in what you are after then I see no problems but as Ramjet states above it does add complication that limits your chances, I'm sure I still get passed over by some even though I am separated (they can get a reference from my ex if they want! ;p )

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