Improve Your Odds in the Online Dating Game

How do I put a photo on my message

i am under the assumption that fling finder is mainly for flings, possibly quick easy casual one nighters come to mind.
have seen profiles of women looking for romance,relationships, and possible marriages first up ?.
yeh sure looking for them is fine, but straight up, on this site.
been on other sites where being a member means you are in for business .Ok be choosy, if there are to many to choose from, aka horny men.Some of them dont match their profile, slim athletic, like yeah if 10kg overweight is slim, atheletic like 15 yrs ago playing football.
i guess either go to adult finder or eharmony for your style.
not much happinning here

Don't feel bad Curious Couple 1, you're on my Hot List!!

Why is it so hard to find a 7 foot blue woman who's name i cant prenounce? im not asking for much i just want her to have 3 fingers, brightly coloured yellow eye's, long hair that can plug into something and a bit of attitude. do you think im limiting my options? may be i should be so pedantic on what shade of blue perhaps...

All in all Fling Finder rocks i wish i made it. congrats Oo... on a job well done.

Tut tut! Go easy on the over-use of the words "older people"!
Us "grown ups" have life experience that the young'ons don't yet have, and on top of that, you Y-Gens are sadly lacking something in your genetic make-up: Patience.

It's cool that you want to get a head start on experiencing as many variations of sex as possible...but I wonder how you would deal with all the negatives (or complications that may arise) assosciated with such experiences? Life aint all fun and games, remember that.

And don't even think about back-chatting me, I'm older than you young man and young lady, I know what I'm talking about!

LOL...just clowning. But yeah, young man and young lady!
Why, I oughta ground the pair of you! :P

You're a trial member and you want full members to do all the work? Pffft, you're gonna have them lining up, bashing down your door Darryl......for all the wrong reasons! hahahaha

Hmm, Happy Meal springs to mind, I wonder why aye Nuxxie? hehe

Krysp says: "Oh, I generally don't respond to flirts... If you don't have a spare few seconds to write a few words, I don't have a spare second to reply to a flirt........"

Thats it in a nutshell right there. A little effort is required to get most peoples attention, both female AND male.

Daryl, People SHOULD be putting what they are looking for on their profile - read them.
As for how do you know how genuine people are? well, the more you chat to them, the better you get to know them - makes sense, right?

I was in no way suggesting FF is full of fat ugly and old people, gees, all the women here are gorgeous...But Hellz hit the nail on the head with what I was trying to say. And maybe you shouldn't take everything so critically.

I don't think Pagan was suggesting that. I'm pretty sure she meant you guys are cute and young and should explore.
Personally, I'm curious to know why a young couple such as yourselves would be "experimenting" this early in your lives? Geez, most teens I know are still worrying about the latest fashion/mobile phone/gadget trends or hooning around fresh on their P's!
I'm sorry if my opinion offends you, but can you see my point here?

Oh and another thing, when replying to messages, it's a good idea to leave the message open for a reply, just saying thankyou kind of leaves the conversation dead and the recipient not knowing whether you want a reply or not

Have to agree with the flirt thing, not all that interested. Much nicer receiving a message that has had some thought put into it.
As to the third wheel cc, your both young, fit and good looking,I have to wonder why you are in a site looking,(not that there is anything wrong with this site ood) Get out and live a little, a gay/bi bar maybe?

Excellent tips Mr Ooodlum. I agree, a bit of effort is required, send messages, and i feel the best way to get to know people is via the chat rooms - so invite people in to the chatrooms for a more "instant" conversation. I'm always sending new members a message that i have saved as a template. It's a pretty simple message that just welcomes them, and directs them to my blog about how to use the chatrooms, and blogs - and that i hope to see them in there some time :)
Saving the message as a template is easy, and saves a lot of typing in the future. You ust hit contact member, then insert the template - then the message is loaded automatically for you to send. You can even edit the message or even add to it before you hit the "send" button.

hi oodlum. i am having a lot of fun being a part of this site. I messaged u the other day about a way too delete a history i have with another person as i dont want it accidentally found by someone else. I can delete incoing messages and outgoing messages but the history remaiins. It does not look like that can be done so have u any suggestions? emily 42

Maybe it might be something simple like your approach? You know, get to know people, establish whether there's a connection there, etc etc. I'm sorry you're not having much luck, just give it time, relax with your main priority of being here and focus on establishing suitable participants.

And my last 2 cents for this evening: I'm of the opinion that this online hook-up thing shouldn't be regarded as a meat market. Afterall, we're all humans behind the facade of a computer monitor, not juicy, prime rib eye steaks just dying to be taken home and barbequed. Mmmmmmmkay? :)

R-rated pics always have a nudity warning though. Maybe we need a specific W rating, for Wang.

One of my pet peeves in relation to men's profiles:
Wang Shots
You know the ones, the full, up close and in your face pics of your "members". Sure, there's some chicks who are right into that. And yes, this IS an adult site...but does browsing through profiles have to resemble browsing through a porn catalogue? Come on guys, be realistic...us girls aint going to respond to you based solely on your wang looks like!

But having said that, I respond to both flirts and emails, irrespective of what your profile pics look like or what's contained in it. Even if it's simply to say thanks for the email but no thanks; the person did make the effort to contact you afterall. Just common courtesy. <-- That's a tip for the ladies.

I think it's fair to say that finding a "third" wheel, no matter how much you try or where you look, is going to be a challenge. Have you couples who are looking for a female tried searching the couples section? You're all pretty much looking for the same thing, perhaps you should try giving that a whirl?